The truth is — we all have flaws, and we have all failed

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Flaws and failure are part of the human condition. And even if you look at the person next to you and believe with all your heart that they “have it all,” you're wrong.

Every person on the planet has screwed up. Every person has mental, physical, or emotional imperfections. And every person is keenly aware of his or her flaws and failures.

So why is it that some people are able to boost self-esteem more than others? Why can some people live happily with their flaws and failures while others are plagued with low self-confidence?

it comes down to 2 point:

  • The willingness to change the things you can change to improve yourself;
  • The acceptance (and even love) of those things you cannot change.

If you have low self-esteem around a real flaw or past failure, ask yourself, “Is there anything I can do to improve this or mitigate the pain of it?”

Can you make amends, get more training, improve your appearance, work on your communication skills, go to counselling, or make different choices?

Action that creates positive change will absolutely improve your self-esteem. You will feel in control of yourself and your destiny.

But then there are those things you cannot change.

Embracing and loving these unchangeable flaws and failures simply means you accept them. You stop struggling and begin to view them as an essential connection to the rest of humanity.

With acceptance, you strengthen your character and improve your emotional maturity. This gives you the peace of mind to focus on your strengths, improve what you can, and fully enjoy the many blessings life does afford you.

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